The Social Operating System Assessment
Four social spaces, the four questions, and your top three Rules and Rearrangements.
You did this for rooms. Now you do it for people. Four spaces, the same four questions, and at the end you pick three Rules and three Rearrangements you are actually willing to start today.
The four questions, in their social form
Who's here? / Who's not here?
Who is present in this space around food and movement? Who is missing who would help?
Then: Who would you add to or remove from this space that would help you to eat better and/or exercise more?
Who's seen? / Who's not seen?
Whose behavior am I actually watching in this space? Whose plate is in my visual field? Whose good habits am I never exposed to?
Then: Whose behavior would you make more or less visible in this space?
Who's convenient? / Who's inconvenient?
Who is easy to spend time with here? Who takes effort? Who is easy to reach at 9pm?
Then: How would you change this space to make it more convenient to be with people who help you, and less convenient to be with people who do not?
How do the people in this space make me feel?
About food. About my body. About my chances.
Then: How would you change this space to make you feel better?
Rules and Rearrangements
A Rule is a decision you make once and then follow, so you are not negotiating with yourself in the moment. A Rearrangement is a one-time change to your conditions that keeps paying you back forever. Each space below offers examples from the module, and you can write your own.
Space 1. Home and Family
The highest-stakes space on the list. Shared kitchen, shared schedule, shared story.
Space 2. Friends and Social Circle
The standing Friday thing, the group chat, the people you text at 9pm.
Space 3. Work
The lunch crew, the break room, the 7pm meeting that eats your walk.
Space 4. Community and Online
Church, clubs, classes, feeds. The norms you opt into without noticing.
Conclusion: your top three
Look back over the four spaces and choose the three Rules and three Rearrangements you are willing to start today. Three is the number on purpose. Everybody who picks twelve does zero.
What to do next
Take your three Rules and three Rearrangements into the Thirty Day Crew Build. Week One is awareness only — nothing changes until week two.
